We all want success – in our business, in our finances, in our relationships. So why do so few people find fulfilment in all these areas?
The answer often lies in your standards.
The only to change your business, change your relationships and in turn change your life, is to raise your standards. Surround yourself with individuals who lift you up; offer guidance and friendship; help you learn from your mistakes; and lend you knowledge that others may keep to themselves.
Stephen Chbosky once stated that ‘we accept the love we think we deserve’. The same assumptions can be made of our business relationships. Chbosky spoke this in reference to non-compromise in love. Instead of accepting the first few you meet. If you think you deserve better, you wait and not act out of desperation to be in love. Whilst love is an enigma and personal to the individual, the theme of acceptance can be translated into the importance of surrounding yourself with positive likeminded people when you’re in business. This means that if we don’t value ourselves, our ideas, and our businesses. We are likely to end up surrounding ourselves with people who do not value them either.
So why is it so important to surround yourself with good people in business? Well simply, you are who you hang around with. The people you spend most time with have a huge influence on your life and your business. It is critical that we use the power of proximity to our advantage! Expelling those that affect our business negatively and embracing individuals who serve to have a positive impact. When you surround yourself with positivity, you’re more likely to adopt empowering beliefs and see life as happening for you instead of to you. Just as you benefit when you surround yourself with people who make you happy, you suffer when those in your business are negative or narrow-minded. Are you trying to grow your business? If so, then why would you choose to hang around people who bring negativity and distraction into your life? The number one way to begin to surround yourself with positivity is to make the decision, right now, that you are going to raise your standards.
Now the final question you might have is how? How do I change my standards? Not to worry! Here are some steps you can follow:
Identify Positive People
Just as you likely have negative relationships in your life, you probably already have some positive people in your corner as well. They don’t all have to be the same – in fact, you’ll benefit from having a diverse range of personality types within your group.
Smart people. Surrounding yourself with people who are smarter than you will push you to always keep learning and to stay curious – two essential traits of those who eventually succeed in business.
Hard workers. The hunger of a hard worker inspires everyone around them to do more, be more and achieve more.
Visionaries. The world needs dreamers as much as it needs doers. The visionary in your circle is the one who will entertain your wildest ideas and always encourage you to chase your dreams.
Positive thinkers. Those who see obstacles as opportunities. When the going gets tough, you want the first type of person in your life.
Cultivate “Real Life” Relationships with People Who Have Already Accomplished Your Goals
Highly successful people are generally willing to share what it really takes to make things happen. They have the ability to help you learn from the mistakes they’ve made along the way and the “tricks and tips” to help you reach your goals faster. Seek out leaders of your field and get some real face time with them.
Remove the Negative People from Your Life
Watch how your energy and enthusiasm automatically blossom. Letting go of the relationships that aren’t serving us is a critical step if we want to become more positive, fulfilled, and successful.
Detoxing your life from negative influencers will also allow you to become the person you truly want to be. You’ll free yourself from constant judgement, negativity, and lack of support.
Life is hard enough – we don’t always win, and there will always be obstacles and naysayers along our path to success. During those times, nothing feels better than having someone you can share your fears and doubts with: friends and mentors that not only listen, but also cheer you on to be the best you can be.
Have an incredible day.
Clare, Cal & team LLIB